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Issendai
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Issendai is a personal blog at issendai.com about culture and health. Since 2014, 58 different Hacker News readers have linked it 67 times, most often “How to Keep Someone with You Forever”. It is still writing: the last post was on 2026-04-01, and you can follow it by feed.
Everything a young otaku needs to know to live a long, healthy, media-enhanced life. Includes manga and doujinshi translations, tips on what to do if you become an anime character or a Dragonball character, and shrines to Shishiwakamaru, Kuja, and Riku.
Most-linked posts?
- How to Keep Someone with You Forever9 people · 9 mentions · first linked 2014-11-01
- The Missing Missing Reasons8 people · 9 mentions · first linked 2021-12-07
- Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' forums (2015)8 people · 8 mentions · first linked 2019-03-17
- Sick Systems: How to Keep Someone with You Forever7 people · 7 mentions · first linked 2019-10-02
- The Missing Missing Reasons7 people · 7 mentions · first linked 2019-07-06
- /psychology/sick-systems.html4 people · 4 mentions · first linked 2021-05-11
- /psychology/sick-systems-whittling-yourself-away.html2 people · 2 mentions · first linked 2022-01-03
What Hacker News says?
It's dark, but you can manipulate and abuse people into staying through pretty much anything. See abusive relationships or this handy article http://www.issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems.html
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on “Facebook moderators break NDAs to expose working conditions”Submitted Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' forums (2015) as a story · 253 points
HN discussionIt reminds me of The Missing Missing Reasons: https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-mis... It's hard to learn to recognize one's own part in the way things are and set ego aside, but it's one of those essential growth milestones that makes everything better.
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on “Boeing Starliner launches first crewed mission”Submitted The Missing Missing Reasons as a story · 37 points
HN discussion> Sometimes it's a competition. Either you will help your partner out or your partner will destroy you. I read this from after following a few links from a post the other day, and it was a real eye-opener regarding this very feeling. 1. http://www.issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems.html 2. http://www.issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems-whittling-yo...
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on “Loving Someone with Depression”- Mz · 2015-04-30
Submitted Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' forums as a story · 18 points
HN discussion The real nugget of truth is found a quarter of the way into the article. > I’m not trying to hurt her; therefore, she shouldn’t feel hurt. The author correctly identified the underlying dysfunctional belief[1], but fails to address it head on. Instead he finds ways to thematically "care more". > I could have communicated my love and respect for her by not leaving tiny reminders for her each day that she wasn’t consi…
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on “A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem”Submitted The Missing Missing Reasons as a story · 4 points
HN discussion> Narcissists Online: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/narcissism/narcissists-on ... I'm not sure how serious I should take this site. Most things they bring forth are valid for the majority of discussions when they enter the heat phase. Some other aspects naturally grow with more experience in throwaway discussions. But I don't wanna think that because of this everyone online is a Narcissist. And what the heck is…
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on “I tracked down my impostor”Submitted The world of estranged parents' forums as a story · 4 points
HN discussionI have been a victim of this, and it is still an ongoing matter. If you don't want to find yourself a victim of these kinds of people, then you better keep these two links as a reference, and always take them to heart: Narcissists Online: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/narcissism/narcissists-on... What to Remember When Dealing with a Narcissist: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/narcissism/narcissists-wh... Peo…
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on “I tracked down my impostor”Submitted The Missing Missing Reasons as a story · 3 points
HN discussionThis reminds me of this wonderful blog series that examines the psychology of estranged parents' forums: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/index.html There's lots of discussion of the generational gaps that cause a lot of this friction (many of which I see discussed in this thread): - Is emotional abuse "real abuse"? Does it "count" for estrangement? - Do parents owe an apology for mistakes they made?…
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on “A shift in American family values is fueling estrangement”Submitted Sick Systems: How to Keep Someone with You Forever as a story · 3 points
HN discussionWhat is even weirder is that there are "estranged parents' forums". A good read on that rabbit hole is here (see "contents" on the right hand side for more links): http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/index.html
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on “A shift in American family values is fueling estrangement”Submitted Sick Systems: How to Keep Someone with You Forever as a story · 3 points
HN discussionThis one is a little dramatic, but in the article she provides a devastating description of what it means to be a bad manager (or partner). https://issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems.html
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on “Ask HN: What are the best articles on managing people?”Submitted How to Keep Someone with You Forever as a story · 3 points
HN discussionIs this http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/why-estrange... and example of type (2)?
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on “Venting doesn’t work”Submitted Sick Systems – How to Keep Someone with You Forever (2010) as a story · 2 points
HN discussionI'm in a similar situation, but I'm don't sympathize. I don't support the "doing their best" philosophy. Everybody does their best; at the very least, in the sense that actions are rationalized as the best in the moment. The website deals with this theme at least twice. One point is [here]( https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/dysfunction... ), under "Disfunctional beliefs": - If I put up with a certain…
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on “Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' forums (2015)”Submitted Sick Systems: How to Keep Someone with You Forever as a story · 2 points
HN discussionmany images on the site are 404 now, but there appears to be copies on archive.is: https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/estranged-p...
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on “Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' forums (2015)”Submitted The world of estranged parents' forums as a story · 2 points
HN discussionThis is actually a FAQ: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/FAQ-estrange...
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on “Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' forums (2015)”Submitted Sick Systems: How to Keep Someone with You Forever (2010) as a story · 1 points
HN discussionMy favorite article from this site is The Missing Missing Reasons: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-miss...
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on “Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' forums (2015)”Submitted The Missing Missing Reasons (2015) as a story · 1 points
HN discussionIssendai’s writing about how to get out of “sick systems” profoundly changed my life. If you are trapped in a job or relationship and feel too overwhelmed to get out read these: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems.html http://www.issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems-whittling-yo... http://www.issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems-qualities-th...
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on “Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' forums (2015)”Submitted The missing Missing Reasons – The world of estranged parents forums as a story · 1 points
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