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issendai.livejournal.com is a personal blog at issendai.livejournal.com about business and culture. Since 2010, 20 different Hacker News readers have linked it 21 times, most often “How to keep someone with you forever”. No feed was found, so read it on the site itself.
Too few sampled comments (16) to say how often HN recommends it.?
Why HN links it
HN readers link this blog's "Sick Systems: How to Keep Someone With You Forever" post, which uses a four-rule framework to describe abusive employment and personal relationships. Commenters cite it often for workplace dynamics.
Summarised by Claude from a sample of 16 HN comments that link here. Each comment is marked recommending, critical or neutral (citing without judging); how this works.
Most-linked posts?
- How to keep someone with you forever12 people · 13 mentions · first linked 2010-06-17
- Sick systems: how to keep someone with you forever (2010)7 people · 7 mentions · first linked 2018-02-06
What Hacker News says?
Re: the abusive relationship, that's exactly how a lot of bad employment situations work. The parallels are pretty much perfect. This post really opened my eyes about how this kind of situation is set up: http://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html
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on “Steve's Google Platform rant”Submitted How to keep someone with you forever as a story · 372 points
HN discussionThis is right out of the playbook. See this article for some very candid advice about how companies retain great employees. [1]: https://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html
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on “One Google Staffer Fired, Two Others Put on Leave Amid Tensions”Submitted Sick systems: how to keep someone with you forever as a story · 16 points
HN discussionDon’t forget about these https://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html
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on ““Culture fit” is a two way street (2018)”Submitted How to keep someone with you forever (employees or significant others) as a story · 5 points
HN discussionI can't help but wonder why just about every company has terrible hiring/HR/management practices. At least with startups, I think money is too cheap and is flowing to underqualified people, managementwise. The VCs see a business person and a tech person, call it a startup and try to eke out a real company. Meanwhile, employees learn the meaning of shit flowing downhill and how culture comes from the top. Anyway, the…
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on “At Netflix, Radical Transparency and Blunt Firings Unsettle the Ranks”Submitted Sick systems: how to keep someone with you forever (2010) as a story · 1 points
HN discussion> That I'm too valuable to lose, but that I'm deserving of a less than average rating. Good that you noticed the paradox! It is surprisingly easy to believe each half of that sentence separately, without noticing how they contradict each other. You simply believe one part in one context (trying to leave), and the other part in another context (asking for a raise or better working conditions). Here is the pattern exp…
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on “Ask HN: Managing career progression for those with no interest in progressing?”Submitted Sick systems: How to keep someone with you forever (2010) as a story · 1 points
HN discussionIf you liked the article, you should also read this blog post: "How to keep someone with you forever" - http://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html It's written from the opposite point of view and goes into more details - ie if you were a manager, you can do X, Y and Z to encourage Stockholm Syndrome and keep your employees emotionally bound to you. It's a pretty scary 'how-to' guide!
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on “Dead End Jobs: Are You Suffering from Stockholm Syndrome?”- bd · 2010-06-23
This is almost a perfect example of "sick system" (or how to keep people in abusive work/personal relationships): Rule 1: Keep them too busy to think. Rule 2: Keep them tired. Rule 3: Keep them emotionally involved. Rule 4: Reward intermittently. http://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html
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on “I own you, and you're easily replaceable.” A lot of what affects the NYC subway is the principle of the "Sick System." http://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html The system is too essential for a stop-the-world overhaul, but so far gone, that only a stop-the-world overhaul can part the clouds. Without a hard flush of antiquated mission critical infrastructure, millions of turbulent eddies and vortices will ensure that the system is always afflicted by paras…
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on “New York’s Subways Are Not Just Delayed, Some Trains Don’t Run at All”Some insight here: (just scan the bold headings) https://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html
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on “Citymapper”Also worth reading: Sick Systems: How to Keep Someone With You Forever: http://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html
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on “What are red flags that signal you should walk away from a startup job?”To echo what other's have said here, it sounds like they have you in a sick system [1] and it's basically abuse. You should talk to your GP; they should be able to get some proper talking therapy/counselling instead of random people on the internet. This will help and is nothing to be ashamed of — I've had it myself. Also, 17k is a pittance for a qualified developer, which you are. Find some new adventures, you can…
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on “Ask HN: "Is that work?"”> He tells me he has to justify our "team"'s existance to his dad whenever he sees him. Okay, so I don't want to go off at the deep end here, but I think the general consensus is correct: this isn't healthy and you're best bet is to leave. It seems to me that his dad bullies him and he in turn bullies you. Also, if they really thought you don't add value to the company, they would fire you. Clearly you do, so they a…
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on “Ask HN: "Is that work?"”Quit and join campus activities that actually interest you. You will have a much better college experience if you say, join the Campus Radio because you like music and everyone else is there because they like music. In most greek fraternities, there is usually zero shared interest why you're there. It's an institution with no core purpose or function other than guaranteeing its own survival by luring in more freshme…
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on “I'm an introverted hacker. I want to join a frat.”I loved this series so much. It is a nice companion to this guide on creating a sick system: http://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html
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on “Does business school teach people how to assert power before they're ready?”i'm not able to answer your question, but the first thing i think of when i read "toxic" on hackernews* is this: Iseendai's "Sick systems: How to keep someone with you forever" post: https://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html which is about abusive and exploitative relationships / organisations / businesses / cults . probably a bit of a tangent, but perhaps a more useful one to read and think about. * probably as…
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on “Ask HN: What exactly *is* the definition of “toxic”?”I subscribe to the apostrophe / boing methodology[0] so "reboinglyeh". [0] http://issendai.livejournal.com/429293.html
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on “So How Do You Pronounce “R'lyeh”, Anyway?”
