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Janet Lansbury
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Janet Lansbury's personal blog at janetlansbury.com. Since 2018, 5 different Hacker News readers have linked it 6 times. It is still writing: the last post was on 2026-08-31, and you can follow it by feed.
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Why HN links it
HN readers link Janet Lansbury's parenting blog as a starting point for the RIE approach with babies and toddlers, including letting children choose what they pay attention to and handling tantrums.
Summarised by Claude from a sample of 6 HN comments that link here. Each comment is marked recommending, critical or neutral (citing without judging); how this works.
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Most-linked posts?
- /2 people · 2 mentions · first linked 2018-05-08
What Hacker News says?
If anybody is interested in this, then it's worth looking at the RIE approach for babies and toddlers (Janet Lansbury's blog is a good place to start http://www.janetlansbury.com/ ). A large part of it is about allow babies and toddlers to choose what they pay attention to. Anecdotally, I very loosely followed it with our two and they have amazing attention spans compared with most kids their age - certainly both th…
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on “How to get kids to pay attention”One of my best tools with my toddler is "don't react, respond". My first thought is rarely my best thought, and my reactionary tone of voice is not my most loving and supportive. A kid doesn't need your immediate answer to everything. You can tell them, "let me think about that" and literally take the time to consider your options. Almost nothing is an emergency situation requiring your elevated tone of voice or phy…
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on “How to parent more predictably (2018)”All great suggestions. I'd also like to add Janet Lansbury [1] as a great resource [1] http://www.janetlansbury.com/
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on “Ask HN: Any good collaboratively built documentation on good parenting?”What has helped me was a combination of trying to really simplify life, and accepting and embracing that things will be hard, and that this will require a lot of energy and strength. I see my pre-parent self as really weak, and am genuinely grateful for how hard this has been, because it has helped forge me into someone with real strength, that I didn't have before and never would have had. I'm not going to lie, I w…
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on “Tell HN: The regret of parenting and how to handle it”I would disagree with this wording "are trying to manipulate to get what they want." And it sounds like from the rest of the things you said, that you also agree with me that it's important to focus on the unmet need. Younger kids generally throw tantrums because they have a need that is not being met. It is possible that they may learn over time that a parent gives them whatever they want when they throw a tantrum,…
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on “Ask HN: What's the biggest problem you face as a parent?”There is a fabulous book on this topic called "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk." and "How To Talk So children Learn" It expresses this concept much better than me. Janet Lansbury also has written some great stuff on how to navigate tantrums for everyone's benefit! Here's one: https://www.janetlansbury.com/2018/12/the-best-way-to-deal-w... My thoughts: I am a huge believer with children,…
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on “Ask HN: What's the biggest problem you face as a parent?”